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Grasping the Different Eucalyptus Species

And how to choose the right Eucalyptus... With over 700 species of eucalyptus, as well as chemotypes, common names and different parts of the plant being marketed, it is no wonder that many people struggle with knowing what is good. Not to mention, most companies are labeling the oil all under the genus of Eucalyptus which is incredibly misleading! What is a Chemotype? A chemotype (CT) is a designation that tells you that the species has different chemical constituents. This usually occurs because the plant is grown in a different area under a distinct climate that alters the chemistry. The perfume varieties mostly contain citronellal, while the species that has been studied to support healthy respiratory system function contain 1, 8 cineole. In order to know exactly what you are getting, always purchase and use essential oils by the common name and genus species. And of course make sure they are therapeutic grade. This matters because different species (and chemotypes) may have a different purpose, so the uses of eucalyptus will be different. Frankly, some species may not be suitable for all uses. ~The Different Species and Uses of Eucalyptus Species~ As I said previously, there are over 700 species of eucalyptus; however, not all have been studied to support the mind or body. The most popular Eucalyptus species used are: Eucalyptus globulus – This oil is commonly known as Eucalyptus or Blue Gum Oil. It contains 60-75% 1, 8 cineol. This is the eucalyptus that is known to provide support for a healthy respiratory system and soothe muscles after exercise. It is originally from Australia, however it is also grows in Brazil, China, Corsica and Ecuador. E. globulus has a fresh and earthy aroma that promotes well being. Dilute 50:50. Can be used as a dietary supplement. Approved by the FDA as a Food Additive (FA) or Flavoring Agent (FL), however, not advised for children less than 6 years of age. Commonly found in toothpastes as well. Eucalyptus radiata – This oil is commonly known as Black Peppermint Oil. It contains 60-75% 1, 8 cineol and is native to Australia. You’ll notice that the constituent make up is similar to E. globulus, but there is a distinct difference in the smell. Radiata is less intense and milder, making it sometimes chosen over E. globulus. Only two out of the six known chemotypes are harvested, CT 1, 8 cineol and CR peperitone. Has a sweet and fruity aroma. Dilute at a 50:50 ratio and this can not be used as a dietary supplement. Eucalyptus citriodora – This oil is commonly known as Lemon Eucalyptus Oil. It contains 40-80% citronellal and has several chemotypes. Although originally from Australia, the trees grow in Guatemala, Colombia, Egypt South Africa, India and China. The trees of Madagascar are high in phenols and the Brazilian trees contain a high percentage of aldehydes. Has an ORAC value of 83,000 µTE/100g. This is the highest value of all the Eucalyptus species. Its fresh and lemony aroma is uplifting. Dilute 50:50. Also can not be used as a dietary supplement. Repeated usage can possibly result in contact sensitization. Young Living created a blend that contains eucalyptus citriodora, RC. Eucalyptus dives – This oil is commonly known as Peppermint Eucalyptus Oil. It contains 35-50% piperitone and 23-30% phellandrene. It has three chemotypes that have different uses: CT cineole, CT piperitone has a minty fragrance and CT phellandrene is traditionally used for insect repellant. Eucalyptus polybractea – This oil is commonly known as Blue Mallee Oil. This tree is grown in France, but native to Australia. It contains 85-95% 1, 8 cineol. The chemotype from the French Tree contains cryptone and smells similar to cumin. Its fresh and earthy aroma is uplifting. Dilute 50:50. Can not be used as a dietary supplement. Eucalyptus bicostata – This oil is commonly known as Eucalyptus Blue. The plant is grown in Ecuador (Eucalyptus Blue) and Australia (Southern Blue Gum). It contains the a high amount of alpha-pinene. It also contains eucalyptol (1, 8 cineol). Some botanists consider this a subspecies of E. globulus; however, this does not have global support at this time. Its fresh aroma is very calming to the mind. Dilute 50:50. Can not be used as a dietary supplement. Eucalyptus staigeriana – This oil is commonly known as Lemon Ironbark (not to be confused with lemon myrtle). This oil contains a high amount of aldehydes (about 51%). You will see it in skin care products and it is very calming. Which should you choose? Always choose chemistry over anything else, no matter what other may say. Choose dependability over deception as you may expect me to say, choose quality over quantity or price. In the case of essential oils, you truly get what you pay for. Uses of Eucalyptus Essential Oil Eucalyptus globulus- Eucalyptus comes from a Latin word "obliquus" meaning "oblique"” referring to the base of the leaf where the two sides of the leaf blade are of unequal length. Did you know that on Cook's 1777 expedition, David Nelson collected a species of eucalyptus to bring back to the British Museum in London? It is most interesting to me to learn historical data along with scientific facts. Eucalyptus may be supportive of the respiratory system, occasional aches and pain, muscle spasm, tension in head and neck; joint stiffness due to exercise, muscles (over exercised, sore, tension or stiff due to exercise or everyday activities), sports. The Spiritual Influence is fascinating as the uses of it includes spiritual transformation as well, bringing relationships into the light. This includes the relationship to our self, to others, to our work, and our God. It will ask us to look at our patterns that hold us back. Or help us see the ones that come forward when we are around our family or if our buttons are being pushed. Triggers, anyone? As we become aware of this, we are able to bring much needed change and harmony to our relationships.

Cassia vs Cinnamon

CASSIA vs CINNAMON Similar to how Sacred Frankincense and Frankincense are in the same family, but boast difference benefits, so it is with Cassia and Cinnamon. Cassia has a grounding and balancing aroma to inspire emotional release. Frankly, it’s an intoxicating and rich aroma- very potent to someone new to essential oils. This potent scent creates a sense of peace and serenity. Serenity now, anyone? Some practical everyday uses for Cassia include; • Diffuse Cassia to refresh and purify the air of odors.
• Add it to DIY cleaners or Thieves Cleaner to clean dirt and grime from surfaces.
• Take your meditation or spiritual practices to the next level.
• Diffuse it with citrus and conifer oils to make your home smell amazing. Cassia has deep history and has been used for centuries. In the Bible’s Old Testament, Cassia was mentioned as a holy anointing oil. It was a key ingredient in temple incense. “All thy garments smell of myrrh, and aloes, and cassia, out of the ivory palaces, whereby they have made thee glad” (Psalm 45:8). It was also used in ancient Egypt and China. It is listed as one of the 50 fundamental herbs of Chinese tradition. Now, how exactly is Cassia different from Cinnamon? The Cinnamomum cassia tree, from which we get Cassia essential oil, is from the same plant family as cinnamon—similar, but each quite unique. Cassia has a deeper, sweeter scent with higher levels of coumarin and trans-cinnamaldehyde. In other words, the amazing benefits we receive from Cinnamon (blood sugar support, immune support, emotion support, etc) are much more magnified in Cassia.
Also, the bark of cassia is thicker, whereas cinnamon is thinner with many more aroma layers. Cassia derived from Hebrew "quddah", meaning "amber" or "quetsioth", meaning "bark like cinnamon". Greek work is "kasia" meaning trees that resemble acacias. If you are a seasoned oil user, Cassia is a beautiful oil to add to your collection of healing tools.

Black Pepper

Soothing Muscle Discomfort After Exercise The benefits of black pepper include soothing muscle discomfort after exercise, quell an annoying toothache, and reduce elevated body temperature. Emotionally, it is also energizing to the mind while being comforting to the body. Imagine feeling the warmth of a cozy sweater while simultaneously getting a fire lit under you in order to tackle the day! We all think of black pepper as something we spice our salad or soups with, correct? While that is perfectly accurate, the benefits of black pepper go way beyond and happily we are able to achieve those benefits with our Black Pepper single oil. According to the Essential Oils Integrative Medical Guide, Pepper was used by the Egyptians in mummification as evidenced by the discovering of black pepper in the nostrils and abdomen of Ramses II. It is reported that mendicant monks of India ate several black peppercorns a day to maintain their energy and stamina. The Medical Reference guide goes on to say that this oil may be particularly beneficial in increasing cellular oxygenation, supporting the digestive glands stimulate the endocrine system and possibly assist in reducing RA symptoms. Application methods are NEAT to the bottom of feet or dilute with V6 carrier oil and apply elsewhere. Black Pepper vitality may be taken in a capsule as well as a dietary supplement. EMOTION fun fact- Black Pepper helps to keep negative energy and emotions away, acting as an "angelic shield" while we sleep What is the Genus And Species? Piper nigrum And so you ask yourself, why is this important? Well, there are over 2,000 species of pepper in the pepper family piperaceae. Many of the species are not suitable for anything but cooking so remember to purchase your oil using the common name and the genus and species. Even though they may share some similar constituents they are not at all the same. Essential oils that pair beautifully with Black Pepper include- Cumin, Frankincense Fennel, Lavender, Marjoram, Rosemary and Sandalwood. Order Black Pepper Here _______________________________________________________ *DISCLAIMER: DEAR FRIENDS, NOBODY UNDERSTANDS YOUR BODY OR YOUR INDIVIDUAL NEEDS BETTER THAN YOU. THE ABOVE SHARED INFORMATION IS NOT MEANT TO TREAT CURE OR DIAGNOSE. THESE ARE SIMPLY SUGGESTIONS OFFERED FOR EDUCATIONAL BENEFIT. TO HELP EXPAND YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND PROVIDE OPTIONS. ALWAYS CAREFULLY EXPLORE ALL OPTIONS AT HAND, DISCUSS THEM WITH YOUR HEALTH CARE PROFESSIONAL, AND OF COURSE, MAKE THE CHOICE THAT IS BEST SUITED TO YOU.

Holistic vs Allopathic

why we need to understand... Growing up it was- chemicals to clean, antibiotics to heal, doctor visits for both sick and well check ups. Eating your vegetables was tolerated, as a chore, but never looked forward to. And as I got older, eating vegetables was eye rolled at, something rabbits and weirdos eat. Intuitively I knew I wanted better for my children, not that my mom did anything wrong, it was what we all knew and did. It was acceptable, how life is done. Then my kid got cancer. And the gloves came off. Allopathic medicine is simply a system of medicine that aims to combat disease by using remedies (such as drugs or surgery) which produce effects that are different from or incompatible with those of the disease being treated. -Webster Dictionary It specifically targets a disease or condition, treating that specific thing. Holistic medicine is the idea that things should be studied as a whole and not just as a sum of their parts. In other words, look at the disease or condition, and ask the deeper questions, "What's causing this? How is the diet, Are there emotional stressors at play?" and then proceed with the whole person in mind, rather than a symptom. For me, I needed to heal my son, but I needed to understand why he got cancer in the first place. I needed to know if I could possibly cure this using methods I suspected. Let me tell you, talk about walk out in faith with your most cherished treasure. If it didn't work, it would cost me everything. So why do we are need to understand this? Because you have all at least dabbled into the idea of Holistic medicine as you began utilizing essential oils. Every oil you use is a chemical you have chosen to not ingest or spray. It's important to learn and understand how holistic healing works. i.e. allopathic is a take this every 4-6 hours and call me in the morning. Holistic requires a more diligent and thoughtful approach- i.e. apply Peppermint, wait 2-3 minutes and assess. Possibly apply Wintergreen, Pan Away or CBD muscle rub. See the difference? This is why we educate here, share our resource materials, and encourage self research. Extra vigilance is a must when taking a holistic approach. We have begun to create space here so that should you choose to continue to dive in deeper into the holistic path, you will be well equipped for any and all circumstances. As always, I'm right here should you need a little extra guidance. And as always, I am grateful that each of you have joined me on this path. Whether you are still looking at holistic as a possibility yet haven't opened your box, or you've dabbled in the holistic yet still partake of the allopathic, or you are fully drenched in oils, herbs and supplements and never looking back~ we are here to serve each one of you.

21 Days to a GREAT DAY

it truly is the best way to start each day

One of Gary's most beloved and most talked about protocols. This is how I start every morning. The collection of these 4 essential oil blends sits on my bathroom vanity, and has become a part of my morning routine. Just as I would never forget to wash my face, or brush my teeth, I will never miss this most essential step either. I also have this collection by the door, so that before leaving, I can quickly apply and be on my way.

I hope it blesses each day for you, as it has done for me!

HARMONY apply a drop just above the navel JOY apply a drop over your heart VALOR apply a drop to the wrists and rub together WHITE ANGELICA apply to shoulders and sweep down your arms

HARMONY helps to balance the body and restore emotional polarity when applied to the solar plexus (above the navel) helps to restore a spiritual connection within us to help overcome negative emotions helps to balance the chakras balances the emotions to help us feel safe, and secure helps to ease daily stress and worry JOY surrounds you with feelings of being loved restores beautiful memories of being safe, secure, and loved helps to relieve and dissolve grief so that the adrenal glands can function at their ideal performance VALOR helps one to build confidence and courage helps to overcome opposition and rejection applied to the spine, helps one to feel in alignment to stand tall and confident *refer to valor video post in team page for blood cell analysis with application of valor* WHITE ANGELICA helps protect one against negative energy while securing and protecting your positive emotional state helps to ease cranial discomfort from high altitudes helps to relieve feelings of anger and overwhelm brought on by others practice and protocol Today begins my 21 days to a GREAT DAY practice, being extremely intentional about my application of this protocol but also creating space in my day to find other ways to have a great day. This was day one of the Great Day Protocol practice and let me share, things are looking rosy. In addition to applying the oils before even leaving my bathroom, who knows what or what I'll run into, last week it was a homeless woman sleeping in my pool house... In addition to the applying, I come to this sacred space of mine, to journal, pray, read and seek guidance. My favorite flowers sitting on my favorite table in the house. My great days begin here... in quiet solitude, journaling with extra oils~ Egyptian Gold, Hyssop, and SARA. I declare and proclaim I am protected, safe and healthy.

Ready for your own practice?

One Thing You Need to Know About Sharing Essential Oils

Have you ever received a gift from Tiffany's? That little blue box, the exquisitely wrapped contents, holding tightly a treasure that few dare dream of possessing, but secretly wanting. It's stunning really. My first Tiffany's gift was beautiful and weird all at the same time. A feeling of odd unworthiness swept over me. I know, but I told you it was weird. The next gift, well, it was quite a different experience. It was gift from a mentor, someone I respected and valued every word she spoke. Her gifts themselves were of superior quality, she hardly needed to gift a Tiffany flute. Yet, there it was, in blue... For me.

I kept it in it's box for far too long, fearing one of my five children, or four dogs would knock it over and shatter it. So there it sat, unused.
I don't believe Charles Tiffany or John Young ever intended their treasure to be purchased and never experienced. After all, they have an full dining room for all to enjoy.

Once I chose to remove it, the feeling was liberating. Opulence at it's finest. Why I kept it under wraps, I have no clue, since in our house the daily practice is to eat on China plates. My children make fun of me and my fancy pants ways calling them my “old lady plates". I just don't believe anyone should ever eat off of plastic if you can help it. We save the paper plates for Sabbath so as to minimize the amount of dish work we all have. Other than that, it's China for everyday use. This is probably my grandmother's fault, on my mother's side. She had this annoying practice of mailing each child and grandchild a tea cup so that when she came, she was sure to have a fine china cup to drink her coffee from, not some coffee mug, like a commoner. Those would be her words, not mine. As elitist as that may sound, it stuck with me for some reason. As I have created my own environment, filled with my own treasures and opulent practices, I have somehow adopted the love for beautiful dishes and frankly, the best that is available to me. Cross pens (though I do dream of a Montblanc or Aurora someday), Coach bags, though, I don't have much occasion to need a purse these days. And of course, foods.
Isn't it wild how organic, vegan foods are considered opulent? After all, these are simply foods grown in the ground, for heaven's sake. When I first began utilizing essential oils in my everyday lifestyle, I quickly realized their emotional healing potential~ specifically when I would cut hair from my house. The needs of southern women rivaled any of the fussiest cliental in Los Angeles to be sure.
My Aria diffuser would sit atop my kitchen bar, gently diffusing Peace and Calming or Thieves, depending on time of year/day/who.

Many would ask me what that thing was, often speculating it was a bong, before smoking weed was trendy. Sheepishly I shared it was a diffuser, and that I sort of liked it. But of course didn't know much about it. My face probably flamed with embarrassment due to being called a hippy most of my young adult life and I was sure this would only seal the deal.
To be honest, I hated to be different, and yet everything in my life screamed of the differences between me, my family and everyone else I ever met. My essential oils only seemed to out me quicker. Little by little I began to feel more comfortable sharing the oils and eventually I jumped into a full fledged business, complete with leaving the world of cutting hair behind.
In the salons I worked at I charged for my hair services, (obviously), and I charged a significant amount. There was zero question as to the amount of money I required to do the job asked of me. In fact, I never felt it was enough. When you invest an hour quibbling over the e x a c t shade of red miss Dori's hair must be for her weekly luncheon, you begin to see you're not charging as much as you're worth. Time, education, scissor investment, all of it plays a factor, not to mention the hours of extra schooling, Sassoon, Toni and Guy, etc. Anyway, you get the picture, I'm sure. As a new distributor of these gems I am remiss to say I did not carry my wisdom of cost into this new business. I quickly learned many would actually balk at the cost of purchasing essential oils. Quipping, "$23 for Lavender?? I can get that at Whole Foods for only $6!"
.... umm.....
"But our farms, but quality but distillation but but but but..." I would say. Some would hear, some were like me, enjoying the finest quality, seeing value for what it was. Others didn't/wouldn't see the value. I wearied myself trying to convince those who argued and complained that it all was so expensive, helping them maybe budget it in, show actually how it wasn't that expensive. "Here, look! Look at this cute price per drop graphic", I would say.

One thing I learned in hairdressing was stay out of people's wallets. Tell them what they need, what's good for them and leave it. Leave it and walk away. When they want it, they know where to find you. There's no haggling in high end salons, there is simply no haggling at Tiffany's either. Never would you ever walk into a Salon on Wilshire or Rodeo and ask what they charged for a haircut. You either scheduled, or did not.

More costly and valuable that a high end haircut are my essential oils. The changes that have come to my home, to my family because of these is remarkable. Truly astounding. Why on earth would I let anyone cheapen them by listening to their balking at cost? I know what I hold in my hands as I use these, I know their value. If you use the same oils that I do, know that they truly are invaluable, highly sought after ancient treasures that for centuries kings possessed and gave as gifts.

I'm not sure what has happened in the last 150 years to the mindset surrounding the value of these ancient healing tools, as they are no less challenging to grow, harvest and distill properly than they were millenia ago. In some cases they have become as rare as a Black Opal, and some, even extinct. And yet, most treat them as common as a paper plate. You find yourself sharing essential oils, desperately trying to convince the world that yours are top notch, the best of the best. All the while diving into your perspective clients wallet helping them afford it. All while doing your level best to share why yours are optimal for their health.
Stop. Don't do that. Only in network marketing do we do this, and it's absurd.

If Charles Tiffany and John Young were to have began an essential oil company rather than a diamond business, I doubt their philosophy would have changed.
The company that you share essential oils from, what is their value? Do they claim to settle for status quo, follow other companies' standards or have a subpar commitment to excellence? Or do they set the standards for the industry? Are they pioneers, committed to excellence? And do they steward the earth with extreme attention and care?
If the company in which you share essential oils from has a "Tiffany" type standard and quality, shouldn't you? I've got news for you, my friend. If you have chosen to partner with such a company, you have Tiffany quality essential oils, not Wal Mart. You have Rodeo Drive quality, not Hollywood Blvd.
Like a fine champagne flute or a china tea cup, they are meant to be used, yet treasured. Shared but with great discretion. There was a time when I would let anyone share my oils, even offer them with abandon. It would pain me, almost like a gut punch, when I'd offer a beloved oil to a friend and they would, with great distain, cry out, "oh! That stinks! What is it?" I would apologize profusely.
Now, I'm more discreet. I'm patient. Not everyone gets the opportunity to enjoy and experience these with me, because not everyone would value them as the treasures they are as I do. Like the Salon I worked at before, I don't advertise any more, I let them come to me. Those who know what I have, the quality they seek, know exactly where to find me~ sipping my Orange infused Ningxia Red from my Tiffany's flute. I know the value of what I have, do you?


Melanoma Awareness Month. Ready to learn? Think with me for a moment~ can you imagine being immune to diseases? The definition of immune is, "protected or exempt, not affected or influenced by something, resistant to a particular infection or toxin". Funny isn't it? We have an "immune system" built in to our bodies. A protected or exempt, not affected or influenced by something, resistant to a particular infection or toxin system... When people first hear that I am plant based/vegan, their immediate follow up is 1001 reason why they themselves are not, could never be, and my favorite, shouldn't be, a plant based eater. You'll note I never asked them... If you and I have talked in person, you did this. It's ok, I see you. Food is emotional. Taste. Comfort. Chewing. All of it, emotional. I get it. But deep down, everyone is looking for that magic elixir to a long and healthy life. And still, when presented with options and choices, pertaining to the taste buds, many balk. Yet, I have invested the better part of 10 years researching reversing cancer, preventing it and even ways to cure it, and the one thing, the magic elixir I keep coming back to is food. Specific foods. High in nutrients, low in calories. High in minerals, devoid of unnecessary fat and grease. By now it should be so apparent that food, emotional health and your environment are the trifectas to longevity. But maybe you're not one to remove every unhealthy food, thought, and toxin from your space and replace it today with only perfection of plants and purity of thought. May I be the one to assuage your fears and tell you, that is ok? Easy plus one, dear friends, easy plus one. I stole this from our homeschool, ps, and let me tell you, easy plus one, it's a game changer in every way. Easy plus one is simple this~ do what is currently easy for you, and add one thing that seems a challenge. i.e. add in a double portion of salad to tonight's meal, until it becomes your easy. Then move on to the next. See how that works? I'm not going to tell you what your easy plus one should be, that has gotten e into trouble in past conversations. You already know anyway. What I will do is give you a list of things to choose from, then you decide~ Spinach, blueberries, raspberries, strawberries, apricots, blackberries and wolfberries. Seriously, add these to your day in a generous helping and you will notice some cool things. It's worth noting that 10 years ago my son was diagnosed with the worst cancer known. One that is aggressive, hell bent on returning with gusto. And yet, never again did it darken our door. Not only that, our family has only increase in exceptional health, vitality and strength. Not only are we aware of melanoma, we are aware of how to never hear from it again. Wouldn't it be incredible to know that your immune system is doing exactly what it was designed to do, be immune to anything? The choice is yours, all you have to do is make up your mind.


There is a word I have fallen in love with over these past two years- Opulence. Defined by Webster’s as great wealth or luxuriousness. Synonymous with words like richness, luxury, splendor, magnificence, grandeur, splendidness, classiness, wealth, affluence, wealthiness, and prosperity. In a recent social media post I remarked about being seen as a rich white lady by many in my community. A fellow rich white lady commented, “rich huh? Young Living must being doing well for you!”. At first I rolled my eyes and shrugged it off as typical behavior of those who don’t know how truly wealthy they are. The comment made me sad for this person, that she didn’t understand opulence as I have grown to understand and appreciate it. How do I know she didn’t understand it? Because she doesn’t see herself as a rich wealthy, affluent, prosperous or, as evidenced by her comment, classy. Nor would she dare admit it even if she did see herself that way. Something I like to call, white guilt, but that is not the topic at hand. Opulence has such a richness to it, that is dripping with luxury. If you create an opulent environment for yourself, everything is high quality and has high standards. Now, lest you think to yourself I must only shop at Tiffany’s (not yet), or purchase all my furnishings at Pompanoosuc Mills or Restoration Hardware, (not quite my taste), opulence isn’t defined necessarily by the price tag. It’s an attitude of mind, a feeling, perhaps in the language you use. It may have something to do with the cost of a thing, but this isn’t what solely defines opulence. You can be opulent in speech, in the way you carry yourself in a room full of people or even, on creating a social media post. You can be opulent in what you allow yourself to watch or listen to. Single men can be opulent by what types of women they think of, look at and hope for. Women, we can be opulent by the way we speak of men, how we treat them, no matter how we have been treated in the past. Opulence, it is an art. Opulence is truly walking as Jesus did in a culture that is completely riddled with scarcity, restraint, simplicity, and poverty. These are the very opposite of opulence. Opulence is excellence in everything- not doing life half way, slapping something together or throwing a meal in the microwave. It’s an hour long pot of vegan chili made to such perfection that even those most committed to meat will requires seconds. I wish I could offer the recipe, alas, it's in my head. Opulence. Perhaps a diffuser combination~ such as several drops of Rose married with Bergamot and Geranium because you know the mood in the room could use a stout amount of harmony and balance. Opulence in this case is not hoarding a $190 bottle of essential oil, and only sniffing the cap for fear of it running out, but rather, using it as you have need, as you might Lemon or Peppermint. At this point it’s only fair to share another favorite word as of late~ Stewardship. Many, especially in the Western Christian culture use this word when speaking to how we should spend money, or how to not spend it. When in reality it means the job of supervising or taking care of something. Synonymous with words such as administration, care, charge, conduct, control, direction, governance, guidance, handling, management, operation, oversight, regulation, running, supervision. So while many think that using 5 drops of Rose oil in a diffuser or purchasing $16 Vegan tortellini for dinner isn’t being a good steward of finances, that’s not entirely accurate and can lend itself to a more scarce, simple, restrained and poor state of mind. Opulence has woven it’s luxurious way throughout the fabric of our home in many tiny ways, which has created a feeling of a haven for us all. From eating on antique China plates for every meal, including snacks, to listening to coffee table jazz while cooking dinner and sipping Kombucha, or even to the little crystal bowls sitting on my daughters’s dressing filled with their lipsticks and jewelry. Did I mention the first and last example were purchases of an estate sale, for a total of $25 China, 3 crystal bowls, crystal platter and a sack of lightbulbs? See? Opulence isn’t about a price tag. If we claim to live as Jesus did and do the things that Jesus did, we might want to begin with thinking in terms of Opulence. Wasn’t it Jesus who chastised the Pharisees for NOT anointing Him with oil and washing His feet, after they chastised Him for allow such a waste (poor stewardship) of costly perfume? Wasn’t it Jesus that offered to feed over 5,000 people, only to have leftovers? And, pardon me, but wasn’t it Jesus who made His first miracle a, ahem, wine run? Opulence. All throughout the pages of scripture we see opulence. Why do I love this word so much? Because it reminds me of the One who first showed such extravagant abundance of opulence in His own earthly life and teaches me to do the same. Because I want people I meet and work with to feel every bit as cared for as I have by Him. And most of all, because Opulence is what He tells us we are worth. And that my friends, is everything.

Three Steps to Turning Heartache into Hope

Currently many children across this nation are grieving. And many adults have no clue, and much less do not care. In fact, many of those same adults are in deep grief and are not willing to let themselves grieve during this time much less someone else in their sphere. It’s not because adults are cold and unfeeling. It’s simply they do not understand how to process feelings and emotions. Not to mention the fact that most folks categorize different types of trauma and grief, deeming one thing to be true trauma and another to be just a little hard, sad or perhaps, not even at all worthy of feeling bad over. The truth is, no one has the privilege to qualify trauma or grief. No one has the right to say whether or not something is difficult for you or not. Your body and mind decide this, not you. What you choose to do with the feelings/emotions/grief is entirely up to you. But first, you must have an awareness in order to come out on the other side mentally and physically intact. I know from where I speak. You see, I was that person who judged (wrongly) someone else’s feelings, whether or not they were “allowed” to feel the way they did. I was a complete ass, if I’m honest. During the time my son had cancer and when I was traipsing down to the NICU to feed and hold my daughter for 30 days, people and their petty nonsense enraged me. I would cut someone’s hair after having spent the morning at Children’s hospital, listening to this woman bemoan the fact that she simply couldn’t find proper drapes. Or another who was so stressed out because she had to pay $2,000 per son in order for them to play football. At the time I was on full Judge Judy mode, criticizing the fact that drapes were so insignificant on the grand scheme of life and football? Lord have mercy! No one is putting a gun to your head and “making” you pay anything. But… their feelings… were real. The pain and anguish they experienced, also real. As real as my heart hurt leaving my baby girl each day, these people felt some sort of hurt and distress. They didn’t need someone to give some mindset platitude and tell them to not sweat the small stuff. They needed someone to simply listen, and thank God with them that their challenges will work themselves through. They needed someone to give them tools on how to release the stress and feel at peace and calm IN their present circumstance they find themselves in. Unfortunately I was not that person at that time. However, I am now. My hope is to give you some guidance on how to move through any time of grief, for you and a child you might have the privilege of sharing space with. First of all, you must acknowledge that the situation you find yourself in is hard, or for the person you are dealing with, their situation they find themselves in. Understand the mind and body feel the feelings, whether you stuff them or dismiss them. Take for example scary news. In an instant, your physical body will create a physical response to what you just heard. It has to this is how it was designed. The flight or fight response right? Releasing adrenaline and cortisol whether you are in actual danger or not. If the mind perceives danger or stress or fear, it will respond the way it was designed. In that moment, you can choose to consciously acknowledge it, and respond in a way that will A., make you feel physically safe, and B., mentally safe. If that is the case, anyway. Take our currently state of the union. Millions of adults now being forced to home school their children- the horror right? Old Jen would have criticized parents for feeling angry and fearful about the notion of teaching these children. But this Jen, understands every bit of that fear, every bit of the anger. It would be like the state telling me I had no choice but to send my child to school. There is fear there, and yet, the fears are not legitimate once we educate ourselves. Knowledge truly is power. Millions of those children are now grieving the loss of friend time, favorite teacher interaction, or worse, a solid way to get a meal… These too are legitimate causes for distress, if the child is not assured everything is different, yes, but we can make it even better than before. Second, once you all have seen the grief for what it is, now is the time to decide what to do with it. Here’s a hint~ don’t say “it’s no big deal”. That is stuffing it. You know, my grandma use to say, “feel the way you feel. Get down in the feelings, give it a good wallow! But then pick yourself up by your boot straps and dust yourself off and get back after it!” Grandma was pretty smart. She was in the top of her field as a clinical psychologist, so I’d say she had an idea or two about the human mind. Get down in it, wallow around in it. Translation, let yourself feel every bit of feels you need to. But not for too long, don’t wallow like a pig in the mud, don’t dwell on it too long, other wise you’ll get stuck there. Get up. Dust yourself off. For those of us who know that essential oils are truly the ay to “dust” of the mental distress, dust yourself off by applying your Valor and then layer with Joy. Valor essential oil is an oil that brings courage. Courage to face a new day, a day full of uncertainty, with confidence and strength. Apply 6 drops Valor on each shoulder and just sit. Let the Valor sink in. Valor will bring your mind, body and soul into balance, giving you or your child the ability to move through this time in a much healthier manner. Joy essential oils is a powerful blend that when inhaled, it brings back memories of being loved, being held, sharing loving times, feeling and opening those blocks in our lives where perhaps we have shut down to love or receiving love or love of self. When stress and trauma are present, using the aroma of Joy can lift your spirits allowing you to think of love, and when we are in a loving frame of mind, we can create loving things to do. In addition, when there is grief, the adenoids and the adrenal glands shut down; Joy may help to open these glands. One of the biggest challenges physically with not acknowledging emotions is the breakdown of the body. Your body will tell you when it has had enough of your stuffing nonsense. Third, visualize a future filled with joy and hope and happiness. I’m serious, visualize the way you want to see your next 3-6 months. Help your child use their imagination. For younger ones, this won’t be any sort of challenge at all. In dealing with our current situation, talk with one another about plans you are creating for 3 months from now. Come up with creative ideas to have a prom or graduation if those things are being missed out on. Once you have removed the grief, thinking in a positive light will be much simpler. If you or a child is dealing with grief of any other kind, not related to quarantines and outbreaks, visualize a future too. One that looks like you want to see it. If there is loss of a loved one, visualize yourself thriving in your space, making a new life for yourself. When you have a mental setback, acknowledge, breathe, use your oils, and then, get up. Face another day. The oils will help you do just that, I promise. No matter the grief you find yourself in, do not qualify it. It’s what you feel. Feelings neither right or wrong, they simply are. Acknowledge them, allow them to surface, “dust” yourself off, and get back up.

Three Essential Tips to Transition to Working From Home

Life as we know it now is very different, and frankly, changing every single day. Sometimes every hour, if I'm honest. And yet, we are still working, needing to school our children and try to create some sense of normalcy. In order to have that last bit be in place, we must pause and recognize the one piece many of us are ignoring. THIS IS ALL VERY DIFFERENT There. I said what nobody else wants to admit. Once we acknowledge that life is different and we stop trying to make it the same, we will be able to better move forward and thrive in this process. Everything is different and yet everything is the same. You have to work~ that is the same. You cannot go to a work space~ that is different. Children need to be educated~ that is the same. Children all need to be educated from home~ that is different. We all require food to eat~ that is the same. We all are required to get our food in small amounts at different times~ that is different. Once we see it for what it is, stop trying to make life normal, and embrace the change and the good that is in the change, we will be able to transition more smoothly. Here are three tips that will help you transition in the most smooth manner and help everyone in your home thrive! 1. Create a quiet space. Search out in your home a sacred space, one that is designated for only quiet times and silent working. Everyone needs this type of space, by the way. Even the most exuberant of extravert needs that sacred respite away from others every once in awhile. In the most tiniest homes, this is possible. The amount of space is insignificant, but more that there is this space, this is the key. A quiet closet, a desk turned away from the rest of the room, perhaps a chair with a cozy blanket draped and a nearby lamp, signaling to everyone in need, this is the space to come when you need a rest from others. If everyone in the home is aware if this area, then those who seek it out will be protected in their space. You'll find introverts being recharged in no time if they are allowed to think and "be" in this area. 2. Create a community area. Now this is my kind of area! A common working environment, where we are all indeed working, but in the same room, perhaps bantering ideas back and forth and then going on quietly with my own work. A community area might be a dining room table, a previous single occupancy home office that now has extra guests for the time being. This space may also include some soft jazz or classical music playing in the background. If you are home schooling your children now, use this area to influence then in the things of the arts with composers such as Antonin Dvorak or Frédéric Chopin. Studies show that music such as these composers created raises your vibrational frequency, allowing a much better mood to permeate the home. What would your work begin to look like if you were able to set the mood, so to speak, with music and essential oils diffusing. You just might find your creativity soaring to a new level. 3.Create a common are. And finally, the space everyone will love as a collective, the common area. This area usually ends up being our kitchen, try as I might to have it be a cozier place like the living room. There is just something about the kitchen that everyone tends to gather in. But for your new home office, offer a space where people can be a little louder, laugh a little, munch on some nourishing foods and just let loose. This area would be the water cooler or break room of a typical office. In this space, have a white board or Post-It notes handy so as to encourage writing inspirational quotes, or positive affirmations to one another. As people are gathered, eating, imagine how life giving it will be for them to read these words. With all of these ideas, the key to wrap it all in a bow is be flexible and allow for frustrations and unusual emotions about the whole thing. Life is different, and different people process life differently. Respect one another and we will all thrive in this time. Be well my friends!

Yes, Essential Oils Too

I came to faith on Christ when I was 23. And contrary to popular belief, anxiety and fear became my reality. Don’t get me wrong, I had peace and assurance for eternity and faith that all would be well, yada yada but the day to day, my inner dialogue... M E S S It wasn’t until I began diving into the use of essential oils that those thoughts and fears could be properly done away with. Turns out, there’s science to why this is so. Turns out, James 5 explains why the use of oils along with prayer creates healing, emotional and otherwise. Scientifically speaking, essential oils have the ability to create clear connections in the neurons, allowing the right wires to fire together. Any old thought patterns that are not part of your original design, will be smoothed out and the patterns God meant for you to have, will be sealed in. It’s so cool how this happens! So when you are reading something that gives life, such as scripture, and applying an essential oil, your brain will go back to original design- before anyone spoke fears over you.
Biblically speaking, anointing with essential oils is a mandate in scripture. Over 600 times it describes this process, anointing, consecrating, setting apart. And, by the way, this was not any old oil and any old oil is NOT acceptable. This is a common thought among Christians today, mostly Western cultures. They will tell you any vegetable oil will do. STOP! No. Absolutely not. First of all, no one should ever use vegetable oil under any circumstance. Your body has no idea what to do with vegetable oil, it’s unnatural. Second, in ancient times- Olive Oil was use, perfumed Olive Oil. Perfumes with what, you ask? Essential Oils. A lot of essential oils. About half the mixture would have been essential oils. This is of utmost importance because when you look at the science behind essential oils and what occurs in the brain when using them, verses not- you can see why God set it up this way. Prayer + Essential Oils= Change. Yes I love my peppermint for the occasional tummy ache or head discomfort. But more than that, I love my peppermint for the way it clears my thoughts and opens my conscious mind- so I am able to hear my God. So I’m able to clear out the cobwebs and nonsense that was spoken over me for 23+ years. When I pair essential oils such as Believe and Hope, while I’m praying a promise over my family which includes “they will spend their days in prosperity... the Lord will instruct them in the way they should choose”, when I do this- clarity comes. When I use my essential oil while I pray, it heightens my awareness and I think as the scriptures tell me I ought to. Whatever is good, lovely, excellent etc, I’m able to dwell on these things. And we all know, what we think about, becomes our reality. Answers are revealed when I pray along with anointing, my mind is at peace and I’m able to L I S T E N.

Self Care vs Self Love

There is a difference. Self care... what a lovely idea. Especially for women. We tend to not take the time for ourselves, but constantly pour out onto others. The needs of our families and at times friends, takes priority and when it's all said and done, they may be little time left for us. Or so we think. As it turns out, much of what we do as women, the constant giving, serving, working is unnecessary. We only think we have these obligations. Most women do for others as a weird way of receiving love and acceptance. Self love... what an unthinkable idea, at least in some circles. I mean, love yourself?? What kind of self centered article am I writing anyway, you might ask. Isn't that a little, much? Self love? Perhaps. However, in the words of Jesus, "love your neighbor as yourself"... How on earth can you love your neighbor as yourself, if in fact, you do not know how to love yourself? Maybe you don't hold fast to the writings of scripture and so this statement is lost on you. No matter where you sit in the faith camp, the fact of the matter is everyone can agree on one thing, love is a missing piece to our world's puzzle. We cannot give what we do not know or have, nor can we give what we do not understand. Self care is a phrase touted a lot today as in 'get some me time, get your nails done, massage even purchase an extravagant oil, just for you'. Self love is so very different. It’s an agape, grace filled love over our very souls. True self love is different than the admonishing statement in 2 Timothy 3, being a lover of self, by the way. That type of love is philautoi love, a friendly, affectionate love. The love mentioned in loving your neighbor, as yourself, is agapēseis, or "the highest form of love, charity or the love of God for man and of man for God". If you are striving to love your neighbor, it's the highest form of love. In order to do this, you must first understand what it is to love, agape, yourself. You see, many of you think loving your neighbor starts by doing works for them, serving, reaching out. Baking a meal for heaven's sake. Nope. Not a chance. That will create bitterness and resentment. Trust me. Hairdresser for 100 years, I saw a lot of bitterness and resentment come out on the follicles of well meaning people. The hair don't lie. Imagine with me for a moment, a world that loved themselves with the highest form of love first, then, gave and served with this fueling them... If one loves themselves with the highest form of love, they are relentless with their standards. Young adults, who love themselves, would never compromise a one night stand because they value themselves so much more than that. They seek out the best relationships, the highest values in their peers. People with an agape love for themselves instinctively know they are worth so much, precious in God's sight, as it were. Women, who love themselves, would pursue their calling instead of sacrifice their dream for the sake of societal standards. They know indeed there is a high calling on them and these women love themselves enough to not allow opinions and judgements of others to stand in the way of what God Himself has called them to. When you look at a gorgeous piece of art, it is only gorgeous and as valuable as the one who purchased it, correct? When you look at yourself, you are only as valuable as you deem yourself to be. Our God paid a high price for you, however, that means absolutely zero if you cannot receive that gift and accept it as truth. Self love means you are ruthless with your values, your standards, your purpose. It means that rather than ask, what's the big deal if I _____, what is wrong with____? The question people who love themselves would rather ask is, what's right with this? How will this benefit my soul, my mind and my spirit? Self love means your rebellious. You rebel against the status quo of accepting mediocre for yourself or your family. You rebel against what society has created as the model for you in every way, from what you eat, to what you listen to, even, the home you curate for yourself. The voices you allow to speak into your life, yea, you're relentless with that too. Self love looks everything like the standard a loving and perfect God set up for us. I don't know what you've heard about God, or what He's like. But I can tell you, if you struggle with self love, then likely, you've not heard truth. Someone asked me what was the difference between self care and self love. Self care can take on an air of selfishness. Self care becomes necessary when we pour out onto others out of obligation and sacrifice. Self love, oh my friend, this is a whole other level. When we are filled with a love that is the highest form of love, we are then able to pour out, and frankly, not need a self care day. Rather than out of obligation, we are now able, and willing to pour into others with the love that is oozing from our very souls.

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